People must be able to accept you for who you are and not for what you are. You should never feel that you need to change who you are just to please someone else that in reality probably doesn’t even like you all that well. Just be yourself.

This its not a free pass to just become an asshole to people under the guise of “just being you” but it should allow you a bit of freedom to do things the way that you would like without fear of ridicule.

I may be wrong but I think people are too caught up in what others think of them. As long as you can live with the decisions that you’ve made then so can I. If your decision does not affect me then why should I care what it is? Does that sound selfish? If so then it just has to be that way.

We worry too much about was others around us are doing and not enough about what it is that we are doing and in some cases not doing. Its time that we sweep around our own front door before we try to sweep around someone else’s. The change must first come from within. We must change ourselves before we can even think about changing someone else.

I’m just sayin’

Sincere

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So My census paperwork came in the mail today.  I’m assuming this came for some other folks as well because on twitter there was this buzz on my time line complaining about the census using “Black, African American or Negro” on the check-box.  Who cares! Just fill the paperwork out and move on!  These are the same folks that go around calling each other nigga but get offended at the term Negro.  Really? Really? Better yet, don’t fill it out over something that stupid, but don’t complain when your schools are overcrowded, The hospital is overrun and understaffed, the bus has stopped coming and there are no community centers or jobs in your area.  That’s what the census is for stupid!

The next argument was ‘well how come they don’t put white or Caucasian? Or any other race’? Simple because we are the only ones that feel the need to change the category every few years.  We, as in my race, decided to change the name every 4-5 years so you can’t get mad at the census people for trying to keep up by putting the most popular ones on there.  White people have always been called white.  They added negro because some older people don’t go by the politically correct term African American or black.  I know my grandmother and grandfather don’t.  They are Negroes and don’t go by African American.  So in an effort to be inclusive to all generations of ‘Blacks, African Americans, or Negroes’ they put them all on there.  If you are that offended then there is a section for you to write in your own ethnicity.  Feel free and have at it.

Let’s keep it all the way funky, while I am not a big proponent of classifying people by race, when it comes to the census it may be for a reason.  While I admire these fools for trying to stand for something, though I’m not sure what, you have to pick your battles in order to win the war.  Basically fill out and mail back the damn form!  Sheesh!  It’s really not that serious!   Don’t try and make this one more thing to complain about that we really don’t need to be  focusing  on.  “We can’t move forward, until you mail it back”.

That.is.all.

Sincere

*Clearing my throat as I step up onto my soapbox and tap the Microphone… Tap Tap Tap…* Ahem, excus.. Is this on? Excuse me? Can you guys hear me in the back? Sound cool? Cool ’cause I have something to say and I need all yall to hear it.”
Last night I was responding to a status update on twitter about interracial dating. I won’t get into all the details but one of the comments that this one girl left said and I quote

“i have a problem with black men who date white women bc they feel as tho they dont want to deal with black women, like their mommas or sisters arent black. that is what pisses me off. Now when black women go to white men, thats because we have exhausted all of our possibilities. which is why im lookin for a chad tatum..looll..and what gets me is when they are with their girls and lookin @ me..no baby dont look over here..u like white girls..”
Now you know I had to respond back with this
“it might not have anything to do with your race. I’m just sayin’… interracial dating is fine with me as well. Its a preference. I do find it funny that if a black man dates a white woman then something’s wrong or he thinks less of black women but when a black woman dates a white man it’s because she’s “exhausted all of our possibilities’”? C’Mon son GTFOHWTBS!! for real! That’s the same as saying black women date white men b/c they don’t want to deal with black men. Same thing! Who you choose to date or not date is a preference and everyone has a right to choose who they want to date as well as not date. The whole black vs white, we off that!”

Of course she quipped back with some more nonsense but my father always told me to never argue with fools because people can’t tell from afar who’s who.  This conversation got me thinking and you know when I think only bad things can come of it! Anyway, obviously this young lady was raised to think that she can only date black men and that something is wrong with dating outside one’s own race.  I think when we teach our kids that they can’t date or something is wrong with dating a person of a certain race or religion we are doing them a major disservice.
Growing up I was never told whom I could or couldn’t date. I was always told to date whoever made me happy whether they were Black, White, Hispanic, Asian, Jewish, Muslim, Christian or whatever. It doesn’t matter. I have learned so much by dating and being around people other than what it looked like at my home than I can think of.  Look, there’s nothing wrong with being proud of your race or religion and wanting to stick to that. If that’s your thing then run with it but just know that you are missing out on an entire world of possibilities.  You can learn so much about yourself just from learning about another culture.  I was raised Christian but I have also read the Quran, and thumbed through the Torah with a few of my Jewish friends.  There’s nothing wrong with being open to other religions and cultures.
Now what really had me a little upset with this young lady’s comment was that she feels that the majority of black men that date white women do so because they don’t want to deal with black men (which is very untrue and just a myth that keeps circulating by people like her) yet she feels that black women date white men because they have exhausted all of their possibilities.  That’s the same thing!! She just re-worded it to make it sound good in her favor. Exhausted all of their possibilities? Really? Sounds like those black women don’t want to deal with black men to me. I’m just saying though. Oh and she’s looking for her Chad Tatum,  I assume she meant Channing Tatum.  Foolishness. To limit ourselves is only damning ourselves.  Think about it.

People at times get too hung up on tradition. I do believe traditions are useful and some should be continued and passed on from generation to generation, but only the ones with purpose.  Some traditions were born out of necessity and should be retired. For example, when I was moving out on my own my mom gave me some recipes.  In them I notices that it always said stir with a wooden spoon.  When I asked her  why they all said use a wooden spoon she said that she wasn’t sure and that she got the recipes from my grandmother who got it from her mother.  I then asked my grandmother why I needed to stir all my food with a wooden spoon and she said that I didn’t have to.  When I told her that I saw her and my mom always using one and it was in the recipe book she made me she just laughed.  She was laughing because the only reason why my great grandmother used a wooden spoon was because that was the only spoon she had! That became a tradition that was passed down for 3 generations or more that was initially born out of necessity that could be retired.
I’m not sure about this young lady’s case but maybe the women in her family dated black men out of necessity and it became a tradition. That tradition was probably started back when it was illegal or literally life threatening to date outside of your race and that was passed on from one generation to the next of how it is supposed to be.  Nowadays that is not the case and that tradition should be retired.  Now the tradition of teaching cultural open mindedness was passed on to me and it shall be passed on to Boogie as he passes it on to his child and so on and so forth.
Stupidity is a tradition that was not born out of necessity but has been passed down from generation to generation and it needs to be retired.  To learn is to grow.

Thanks for your time.
*Drops mic, kicks mic stand then steps down off soapbox and walks off*

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I just don’t get it. Then once she has a baby with him and he doesn’t do anything to support the child she decides to dog him on facebook via status updates.  I’ll never understand why people put all their business in the status updates and on twitter anyway, but that’s a different post.  whenever I see someone do this I call them on it.  You knew he or she was trifling before you laid down with them all those times but now that you have a child and you see that he’s not doing anything you want to dog him.  I am in no way condoning the guys’ behavior but c’mon son! That’s like you buy a car knowing it has a bad engine then get mad at the person who sold it when it breaks down.  You knew going in that if you got pregnant that it wouldn’t end well!  Get over yourself and move on.

This is not about those guys that changed once the woman gets pregnant.  I know there are plenty of guys that have done that.  This is about the ones that are no good to start with yet women continue to be with them.  They pass up a good guy that will treat them with respect to be with the jerk that treats them like crap.  I guess good guys do finish last. I think women are attracted to that bad boy image. I see it all the time.  Women that have this long list of what she wants in a man, ya know like nice, respectful, neat blah blah.  So you’re thinking okay she wants a good guy bu then when you see her date or boyfriend he’s the total opposite of what she says she wants.  This was so frustrating to me growing up.  I was always taught to treat women with respect so that’s what I did but for a little while when that wasn’t working I went into the bad boy ish phase and treated girls like objects as opposed to the young women that they were.  Funny thing is, I ended up being with more girls as a bad boy pseudo thug then by being a gentleman.  I know this is going in a different direction but it will all come back full circle.  See these same women that are dogging the thug because he got her pregnant with his 5th or 6th child, that he has no intentions of taking care of, are the same women that have this long list of things they want in a man.  Ya know, treats them nice, takes care of them, neat, respectful?

All I can say is that it takes two people to have a baby, and yes he is not doing his part to help raise the child, you were aware of this before you even got serious enough to sleep with him.  Yet you did it anyway, now you want to put all the blame on him.  Is that fair?  No. Is he being fair to you by not taking care of his seed? No.

The bottom line is, people need to be more careful about who they decide to lay down with.  Especially if you know their past history of neglecting their children. We really need to wise up and realize that this doesn’t do anything but hurt the child.  I don’t care what anybody says or how ‘independent’ the woman is a child needs both a mother and a father. A boy needs to learn certain things from a man and a girl needs to learn certain things from a woman.  If I had a daughter and no wife or woman in her life then when she started to have her period, for example, I wouldn’t be nearly as knowledgeable about it as my wife or the woman in my life would be.  I could read a million books but that woman could give her first hand knowledge.  If a boy grows up with his mother and no father or male figure, he is missing out on certain things as well.   I do believe single parents can raise happy, well rounded, adjusted children into successful adults but with that extra male or female figure it makes it a little easier.

Take from this what you may but remember that it takes two to tango and if you knew he wasn’t worth a damn from the jump then you should have kept your legs closed. Period. End of discussion.  Now your child(ren) has to suffer because of your of indiscretions.  Child please.

Peace

Sincere

Shout out to my homie Taylor Swift for winning album of the year and selling the 2nd most records of 2009, behind Michael Jackson. I don’t care what anybody says, you deserved that award and it had nothing to do with Kanye.

You know who I don’t like? Beyonce stans! Not the fans but the stans. They feel like everything she does is so original and dope or that she should win every award she’s up for and even some that she’s not. C’mon son!

While I’m not knocking Beyonce, I think she has tremendous drive and is talented but I’m not really into her. I was saying on twitter during her 60 Minutes interview that I thought she was dense and does boring interviews and the stans came out! All they could talk about was that she was successful and had a bunch of money. I never said she wasn’t talented and rich but she does boring interview and it seems like at times she doesn’t grasp easy concepts that 90% of the world gets. That’s all. Hell, Bill Gates is paid and successful but does boring ass interviews! Get over yourselves!

What’s funny to me is people say Taylor Swift is this or she’s that but she is a talented young relatively new singer (only 2 albums in) that is receiving accolades for it. Just because black people that only listen to R & B and rap haven’t heard of her doesn’t mean she isn’t talented! There’s more music out there other than Beyonce and Gucci Mane. Open your minds people!

That.is.all

That is all

Sincere