Okay so the picture above is of my wife Brooklyn’s sunday meal of Oxtail & Rice. It is the best I’ve ever had! Seriously! This was her first time making it & trust me she hit it out if the park with this one! I’m not big on beef, I’m a turkey or chicken man myself, but this had me going back for seconds!
I just thought I’d share that bit of info & if you’re in Atlanta and want a challenge then bring it! Just kidding.
Peace
Sincere
Oh yeah I posted this whole thing, pic and all, from my blackberry with the wordpress app, dope right? I know I know, no big whoop but I find joy in the little things! Haha
By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.
Confucius
So My census paperwork came in the mail today. I’m assuming this came for some other folks as well because on twitter there was this buzz on my time line complaining about the census using “Black, African American or Negro” on the check-box. Who cares! Just fill the paperwork out and move on! These are the same folks that go around calling each other nigga but get offended at the term Negro. Really? Really? Better yet, don’t fill it out over something that stupid, but don’t complain when your schools are overcrowded, The hospital is overrun and understaffed, the bus has stopped coming and there are no community centers or jobs in your area. That’s what the census is for stupid!
The next argument was ‘well how come they don’t put white or Caucasian? Or any other race’? Simple because we are the only ones that feel the need to change the category every few years. We, as in my race, decided to change the name every 4-5 years so you can’t get mad at the census people for trying to keep up by putting the most popular ones on there. White people have always been called white. They added negro because some older people don’t go by the politically correct term African American or black. I know my grandmother and grandfather don’t. They are Negroes and don’t go by African American. So in an effort to be inclusive to all generations of ‘Blacks, African Americans, or Negroes’ they put them all on there. If you are that offended then there is a section for you to write in your own ethnicity. Feel free and have at it.
Let’s keep it all the way funky, while I am not a big proponent of classifying people by race, when it comes to the census it may be for a reason. While I admire these fools for trying to stand for something, though I’m not sure what, you have to pick your battles in order to win the war. Basically fill out and mail back the damn form! Sheesh! It’s really not that serious! Don’t try and make this one more thing to complain about that we really don’t need to be focusing on. “We can’t move forward, until you mail it back”.
That.is.all.
Sincere
Okay so I just got word that apparently our favorite show ‘The Game’ is coming back! This time on BET. *Kind of a fail* I know what you’re thinking, yeah this has been out there for the longest but this time I think *keyword think* that its official. The only thing they are waiting on is for the cast to sign contracts.
You guys know I don’t do the gossip so if this is wrong then just excuse this one time lapse in judgment okay? Okay. I’m still on the fence about whether or not to do recaps if or when it does or doesn’t return. I’m not really a fan on BET so I can’t see myself tuning in every week faithfully in order to keep up. I mean I saw a few episodes and they censored so much of it that if I hadn’t seen it I would have been extra lost! I hope they don’t change the format but I have a feeling it won’t be the same as before.
Anyway, you guys let me know if you think I should continue to do the recaps if it comes back on the air because I do them for you guys not me. I’ve already seen the episode, I like to keep you guys up to speed. If I hear any further developments I’ll post them.
Sincere
You know what. I really hate when people interject and then subsequently take over the conversation. That shit really irks me. Seriously. If you let me finish my statement then you’ll most likely see that we agree. Instead of just jumping in and taking over the conversation after only my second sentence.
I hate when people don’t respect other people’s opinions. Agree or disagree its their opinion. Its even worse when they hijack the conversation and I never end up getting my point across.
This is why I blog/write. I am able to get my entire point across, without interruption, before someone stops me to interject what they think I mean. After I have gotten my point across then, and only then, should you jump in and voice your agreement or disagreement. I’m just sayin’, let me finish!
*Clearing my throat as I step up onto my soapbox and tap the Microphone… Tap Tap Tap…* Ahem, excus.. Is this on? Excuse me? Can you guys hear me in the back? Sound cool? Cool ’cause I have something to say and I need all yall to hear it.”
Last night I was responding to a status update on twitter about interracial dating. I won’t get into all the details but one of the comments that this one girl left said and I quote
“i have a problem with black men who date white women bc they feel as tho they dont want to deal with black women, like their mommas or sisters arent black. that is what pisses me off. Now when black women go to white men, thats because we have exhausted all of our possibilities. which is why im lookin for a chad tatum..looll..and what gets me is when they are with their girls and lookin @ me..no baby dont look over here..u like white girls..”
Now you know I had to respond back with this
“it might not have anything to do with your race. I’m just sayin’… interracial dating is fine with me as well. Its a preference. I do find it funny that if a black man dates a white woman then something’s wrong or he thinks less of black women but when a black woman dates a white man it’s because she’s “exhausted all of our possibilities’”? C’Mon son GTFOHWTBS!! for real! That’s the same as saying black women date white men b/c they don’t want to deal with black men. Same thing! Who you choose to date or not date is a preference and everyone has a right to choose who they want to date as well as not date. The whole black vs white, we off that!”
Of course she quipped back with some more nonsense but my father always told me to never argue with fools because people can’t tell from afar who’s who. This conversation got me thinking and you know when I think only bad things can come of it! Anyway, obviously this young lady was raised to think that she can only date black men and that something is wrong with dating outside one’s own race. I think when we teach our kids that they can’t date or something is wrong with dating a person of a certain race or religion we are doing them a major disservice.
Growing up I was never told whom I could or couldn’t date. I was always told to date whoever made me happy whether they were Black, White, Hispanic, Asian, Jewish, Muslim, Christian or whatever. It doesn’t matter. I have learned so much by dating and being around people other than what it looked like at my home than I can think of. Look, there’s nothing wrong with being proud of your race or religion and wanting to stick to that. If that’s your thing then run with it but just know that you are missing out on an entire world of possibilities. You can learn so much about yourself just from learning about another culture. I was raised Christian but I have also read the Quran, and thumbed through the Torah with a few of my Jewish friends. There’s nothing wrong with being open to other religions and cultures.
Now what really had me a little upset with this young lady’s comment was that she feels that the majority of black men that date white women do so because they don’t want to deal with black men (which is very untrue and just a myth that keeps circulating by people like her) yet she feels that black women date white men because they have exhausted all of their possibilities. That’s the same thing!! She just re-worded it to make it sound good in her favor. Exhausted all of their possibilities? Really? Sounds like those black women don’t want to deal with black men to me. I’m just saying though. Oh and she’s looking for her Chad Tatum, I assume she meant Channing Tatum. Foolishness. To limit ourselves is only damning ourselves. Think about it.
People at times get too hung up on tradition. I do believe traditions are useful and some should be continued and passed on from generation to generation, but only the ones with purpose. Some traditions were born out of necessity and should be retired. For example, when I was moving out on my own my mom gave me some recipes. In them I notices that it always said stir with a wooden spoon. When I asked her why they all said use a wooden spoon she said that she wasn’t sure and that she got the recipes from my grandmother who got it from her mother. I then asked my grandmother why I needed to stir all my food with a wooden spoon and she said that I didn’t have to. When I told her that I saw her and my mom always using one and it was in the recipe book she made me she just laughed. She was laughing because the only reason why my great grandmother used a wooden spoon was because that was the only spoon she had! That became a tradition that was passed down for 3 generations or more that was initially born out of necessity that could be retired.
I’m not sure about this young lady’s case but maybe the women in her family dated black men out of necessity and it became a tradition. That tradition was probably started back when it was illegal or literally life threatening to date outside of your race and that was passed on from one generation to the next of how it is supposed to be. Nowadays that is not the case and that tradition should be retired. Now the tradition of teaching cultural open mindedness was passed on to me and it shall be passed on to Boogie as he passes it on to his child and so on and so forth.
Stupidity is a tradition that was not born out of necessity but has been passed down from generation to generation and it needs to be retired. To learn is to grow.
Thanks for your time.
*Drops mic, kicks mic stand then steps down off soapbox and walks off*
Okay so I should be doing some homework or reading some chapters in my psych book but I needed to take a quick break to try and clear my mind a bit.
I’ve come to realize that I can at times bite off more than I can chew. I refuse to ask for help so I just plod along and struggle though until I reach the finish line. Right now I am working full time, taking 2 courses that each demand full time student attention, writing paid content for an online company, trying to squeeze in at least 3 day’s work of gym time to help control my sugar levels so that my diabetes won’t get out of hand, and spend quality time with my family. It’s a lot to take on in just 24 hours. Even though I am doing well in all these activities and I’m keeping up somehow, it can be overwhelming.
I know that one of my biggest flaws is with time management and procrastination. I mean I will wait until the last possible moment before I do anything and that just leads to a back up of work and that just least to me being stressed about it and then the task ends up taking way longer than necessary. Ughh. Why can’t I just do things in a reasonable time? I know why, because I’m sort of a perfectionist. I am never done with anything. I feel like it could always use ‘one more thing’. If I wait until the last possible moment then I won’t have time to go back and ‘fix’ things. I have to put my best into it at that time and that’s it. I tried this with a paper that I was doing for class. I started the paper like 2 weeks earlier than normal. I only needed it to be 2-3 pages. By the time I ended up turning it in like 3 weeks later it was 8 pages!, I ended up having to go back and trim and cut it but if I had done it a week early like usual it would have been the correct length and I still would have gotten a good grade.
Besides from being a perfectionist I’m also a procrastinator so my work is never done and it never starts!! I really need to work on the procrastination more than the perfectionism (if that’s even a word. Too lazy to look it up). I mean to try and make something perfect all the time is one thing but to wait until the last possible moment to get it done on top of that is bad business. I think that the procrastination comes in because I never feel like I’m ‘done’ and that I can start later and it’ll be okay because I’m good at this or that. Fooling myself into this false sense of security. I need to work on a few things but these are the biggest two right now. I graduate in December so I really need to get it together as I switch it into high gear.
Anyway that’s about it for me since my break is over, and now back to my psych reading.
Peace
Sincere
Today is a new day. A new beginning. Yesterday is gone and Tomorrow is not promised. Make the most of today.
As we go through life we tend to take things for granted. Things like the fact that we are even here. We put off things that could be done now for later or we don’t realize and appreciate the present that is a new day. Everyday is important and you should strive to live it like it’s your last because you never know, it very well may be. Yesterday is the past, tomorrow is the unknown future but today is the present, Treat it as such. A present.
Peace
Sincere
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